Meet my Mother – A Beautiful Soul

My mother has been a near-constant presence on my Instagam feed pretty much since the birth of my blog, and you all recently had the chance to see her in the Momma T x TildaKimono Collab. Now, in light of Mother’s day weekend, I wanted to give the world an opportunity to get to know her on a deeper level. She is a woman with wisdom and heart, and I think you’ll really like her.

With my notebook in hand, I met my mom for happy-hour beers, and asked her some questions. Sit back, relax, and read what Momma T had to say:

KT (Me): Start off with introducing yourself, what do you want the world to know about you?

MT (Momma T): I don’t want the world to know anything about me…

Okay fine. My name is Akosua, I turned 50 years old. I was born in Ghana–I didn’t grow up here. I lived a short time in Montreal, and then moved to Edmonton.

I’ve tried many careers, and finally settled on HR–Recruitment.  I love people, and I love supporting women to reach their full potential. I’m fascinated by the different paths there are to take people where they want to go. I look at my 5 strengths from Strength FindersLearner, Arranger, Restorative, Positivity, Empathy, and I love the definition of Empathy. It says I should always be working with people; I just love the nuances of humanity.

KT: What are you most proud of? (And no, you don’t have to say your children.)

MT: I’m most proud of my confidence level–and the decision to go back to school and to change careers. I’ve really struggled with indecision, so I’m really proud of creating a goal around the HR process–of writing it down, laying it all out. You know; creating 6 month, 1 year goals of where I wanted to be, and then actually accomplishing it all!

And also, I’m proud that I’m able to have three grown up kids that aren’t on drugs…

KT: Thanks mother…

MT: No but really, I’m proud of where they’re at and who they’ve shaped up to be.

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Vancouver Curlfriends – Black and Gold Brunch

When women get together, amazing things happen. 

This past Sunday, I attended the Black and Gold Brunch hosted by Vancouver Curlfriends, where they were kind enough to ask me to speak about myself, my blog, and my photography project; #ProjectNatural.

Growing up in a city with a severe lack of a “black community”, I am grateful to have met a group of women of colour who are dedicated to creating one.  In everyday life, I am an introvert. It is overall hard to convince me to step out of my house–to step away from writing, reading, or a Netflix binge. But when the opportunity to network with other women arises, I’ll do what I can to be there.

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“I like your natural hair better” and other...

Hey y’all. Xandria is back with another hard-hitting Guest Post.
You may remember her from some of her previous posts here and here. 
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Now, before we start, I want you to know that I get it. You had good intentions. In fact, you probably thought you were complementing me. BUT SURPRISE! Intentions don’t actually do anything to change the impact! SHOCKING. I know “it’s just hair!”, but hair is a much more layered and complex issue for women or color, and if you’re not one, then zip it and listen for a second! Because believe it or not I don’t actually need you to tell me what I should or shouldn’t care about, or how something should or shouldn’t affect me, because my brain is actually capable of forming my own emotions and reactions! WOW! And before you say “not all insert group of people do or think that!” please, just read this all with an open mind and heart, because it should be obvious that not all insert group does or thinks a certain way, nor is anyone implying that anywhere. Also remember that this is my story, and I am allowed to share my experiences and thoughts without you questioning their authenticity. So here we go.

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My BFF Courtney – Long Distance Friendship

You don’t know my #NaturalHairJourney if you don’t know my girl, Courtney. She is someone who was extremely influential in kicking off the whole thing. Before you go saying “But her hair is relaxed“, you better check yourself and read Part Three of my Hair Journey.

Back in 2011, when we met in New York, Courtney taught me that caring for your hair was a thing. She taught me that throwing my hair in a bun and slapping a headband on was not only lazy and not really attractive, but also, damaging to my strands. I didn’t even know that satin caps and satin pillows existed before I met her. I didn’t even know that putting straight oils in your hair could be a positive thing. Basically, I just didn’t know anything about hair at all.

Anyways, it had been five whole years since I last saw this girl. (In person might I add, since FaceTiming for 3 hours, several times a week definitely doesn’t count). Then life finally worked out and I was able to take an Easter weekend getaway to Austin, Texas, where she now lives.

And so, we were reunited…

Long Distance Friendship | Tilda Kimono | Comfy Girl With Curls | Handmade Kimono Robes
Kimonos – TildaKimono

I’ve done a long distance relationship and several long distance friendships, and both are difficult in their own ways. With a relationship, there is usually an end goal of living in the same city somewhere down the line, which makes the separation a little easier to deal with. With a long distance friendship, that isn’t always the case, and sometimes the most you can hope for is an epic reunion every half a decade or so. (And somehow, you have to be okay with that).

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5 Days of Gap Work Outfits | OOTD Inspiration for your ...

As many of you know, I suck at dressing myself, so a good friend of mine (Tilda Ruvinga) often helps me out in that department. (Check out the last style she hooked me up with Here). So when I found myself in a new job, with little to no clothing suitable for the position, Tilda helped me out… and my mom gave her 2 cents too. The day I accepted my offer, I met Tilda at The Gap, and that is how she created “5 Days of Gap Work Outfits”. She completely set me up for my first 9 to 5 work week!

Here are the results, an Outfit of the Day, for Every Day:


Gap Work Outfit | Corporate | 9 to 5 OOTD
True Black; Chunky Open-Neck Sweater | Red Dot; New Fitted Boyfriend Clip Dot Shirt | Black; Bi-stretch Skinny Ankle Pants

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